Recommended Resources

Recommended Books

Guide Books For Bereaved Parents

When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter Judith R. Bernstein, Ph.D.
After the Darkest Hour, the Sun Will Shine Again: A Parent’s Guide to Coping with the Loss of a Child Elizabeth Mehren
The Bereaved Parent Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
The Worst Loss: How Families Heal from the Death of a Child Barbara D. Rosof
How to Survive the Loss of a Child Catherine M. Sanders
When a Baby Dies Jill Worth
No Time to Say Goodbye Paul Arnott
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart. Surviving the Death of Your Baby Deborah L. Davis
The SIDS Survival Guide - Information and Comfort for Grieving Family and Friends and Professionals Who Seek to Help Them Joani Nelson Horchler and Robin Rice Morris.
Help, Comfort & Hope after Losing Your Baby in Pregnancy or the First Year Hannah Lothrop
When a Baby Dies. The experience of late miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death Nancy Kohner and Alix Henley
I Will Carry You Angie Smith - Written by a Christian woman who continued a pregnancy after receiving a terminal diagno-sis at 18 weeks. Religious but not judgmental
Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart- 100 practical ideas after your child dies. Alan Wolfelt
Trying Again. A Guide to pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss Ann Douglas and John Sussman
Finding Hope When a Child Dies – What Other Cultures Can Teach Us Sukie Miller
After the Death of a Child: Living with Loss Through the Years Ann K. Finkbeiner
Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child Ellen Mitchell
The Death of a Child Peter Stanford
The Grieving Garden - Living with the death of a child Suzanne Redfern & Susan K. Gilbert

General Bereavement Guide Books

When Mourning Breaks: Tales of Hope and Healing Anthony Yeo Singapore
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies Therese A. Rando, Ph.D.  
“You’ll Get Over It”. The Rage of Bereavement Virginia Ironside  
The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery & Growth Through Grief Judy Tatelbaum  
To Heal Again: Towards Serenity and the Resolution of Grief
Rusty Berkus short soothing statements with dreamlike illustrations
Learning to Live Again: A Practical, Spiritual Guide to Coping with Bereavement Rita Rogers
(Rogers is a well-known psychic practicing in England. She gives compelling stories of putting parents in touch with their deceased children, helping them resolve some of their most painful grief issues.
Grieving the Loss of a Loved One: A Devotional Companion Kathe Wunnenberg
a Christian guide
Innocent Voices in My Ear Doris Stokes An English psychic, famous in the 1970s and 1980s, writes about her special relationship and psychic communications with children and those who died young
How to Survive the Loss of a Love Melba Colgrove,Ph.D.,
Harold H. Bloomfield,M.D., & Peter McWilliams
A Time to Grieve - Meditations for healing after the death of a loved one Carol Staudacher  

Personal Accounts of Coping With the Loss of a Child

A Broken Heart Still Beats Anne McCracken & Mary Semel This is a collection of pieces by famous people -- writers, politicians, actors, other public figures both real and fictional – describing how they experienced the death of their child.
Give Sorrow Words Tom Crider A one year diary following the death of his grown daughter in a fire
Lament for a Son Nicholas Wolterstorff Account of feelings and thoughts after losing a teenage son in a climbing accident
Touching the Edge Margaret Wurtele Account of healing process after losing her only child, a grown son
Paula Isabel Allende  
A Grief Observed C.S. Lewis A short but moving and expressive account of grief following the death of his much beloved wife
A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss Jerry L. Sittser A heartrending account of grief and healing following a car accident which killed his child, his wife and his mother
Living on the Seabed Lindsay Nicholson A deeply moving and beautifully written memoir of this British journalist's loss of both her husband and daughter

Philosophical Approaches to Understanding Loss

Who Dies? An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying Stephen & Ondrea Levine
Life Lessons: How our Mortality can Teach us about Life and Living Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler
The Wheel of Life Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying Sogyal Rinpoche
No Death, No fear: Comforting Wisdom for Life Thich Nhat Hanh
The Journey Home: What Near-Death Experiences and Mysticism Teach us about the Gift of Life Phillip L. Berman
Healing Grief James van Praagh
Transcending Loss Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W.
When Things Fall Apart - Heart advice for difficult times Pema Choldron
Broken Open - How difficult times can help us grow Elizabeth Lesser


Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, his Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy that Changed both their Lives. Dr. Brian Weiss  
Life After Life Raymond A. Moody  
Death’s Door: True Stories of Near-Death Experiences Jean Ritchie  
Words of Comfort Edited by Helen Exley
little hardcover booklet containing collection of grief poems
When Your Friend’s Child Dies – A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend Julane Grant  
The Christmas Box Richard Paul Evans  
A Heartbeat Away - Finding hope after grief and loss Flappy Lane Fox  

Helping Children Cope with Grief

On Children and Death: How Children and their Parents can and do Cope with Death Elizabeth Kübler-Ross  
The Kid’s Book about Death and Dying By and for Kids Eric E. Rofes and the Unit at Fayerweather Street School  
I Will Remember You: A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens Laura Dower  
What on Earth Do I Do When Someone Dies? Trevor Romain guidebook written for young children answering their most common questions
Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss Michaelene Mundy  
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages
Leo Buscaglia, PhD
Lifetimes: A Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children Bryan Mellonie & Robert Ingpen  
Badger’s Parting Gifts Susan Varley  
No Matter What Debi Gliori for preschool children
Someone Special Died Joan Singleton Prestine for very young children
Shooting Stardust Frrich Lewandowski story for young children told by a boy whose brother died
Balloons for Trevor Anne Good Cave story of a boy who loses his best friend, told for school age children
When Someone Dies Sharon Greenlee  
Jack’s Journey Laura Harris, M.Div, MSW & Steve Dawson M.Div, LCSW  
Water Bugs & Dragonflies – Explaining Death to Young Children Doris Stickney  
When Dinosaurs Die – A Guide to Understanding Death
Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
The Sky Dreamer Anne Morgan A beautiful picture book fantasy story, written by a bereaved mother, to help children experi-encing grief after the death of a loved one
The Angel with the Golden Glow Elissa Al-Chokhachy Good for subsequent children after losing a child
Tear Soup Pat Schwiebert RN, Chuck Dekleyn A storybook about grief written like a children’s picture book but helpful for people of all ages
We Were Gonna Have a Baby, but We Had an Angel Instead Pat Schwiebert RN A good children’s book about pregnancy loss or loss at time of birth

Materials available from The Child Bereavement Trust, UK



Caring – For you when your baby dies a comprehensive and general booklet guide written by a bereaved mother in the UK, with Jenni Thomas of CBT. Excellent advice and information.
Memories a booklet with spaces for photos, foot and hand prints etc. Sections in the booklet allow for information of the lost child and for others to write “special words”.
This is about me a workbook designed to help communicate difficult information to children when a parent (or prime carer) is terminally ill. Especially for 4 – 14 year olds
My book about me a workbook designed to help children with a life-threatening illness understand their feelings and so lessen their fears and help them to cope.
My Book About Our Baby that Died a workbook for children
Grieving - after the death of your baby a book to accompany the video (“When Our Baby Died”) – aimed at helping families to find ways of expressing their grief and remembering their baby
The CBT Children’s Activity & Information Pack a pack to accompany the video (“Someone Died – It happened to me”) – full of information about children and grief, together with suggestions and ideas of things children can do to help them express their feelings. Included in this activity pack are notebooks to write thoughts; a balloon and a label to send a message; special stickers for writing or drawings; a glove puppet pattern and a book with information on losing somebody dear
Benedict – A child of mine a small book of poems written by Alexa Warden, a bereaved mother.
When Our Baby Died a video about grief for parents and families and all who care about them. Aimed at helping parents to feel less alone and to understand more about what they feel. Parents, grandparents and children talk about their feelings, explaining what the death of their baby has meant to them, and how it has changed their lives, and they describe some of the things they have done to express their grief, mourn for their baby and find support for themselves.
Someone Died – It happened to me a video for children and teenagers about loss and grief. Children between 7 and 18 talk about the loss of a parent, brother or sister.


A comprehensive guide on formalities and procedures immediately after death has just been published jointly by the National Environment Agency and The Association of Funeral Directors (Singapore) – called ‘When A Loved One Passes Away’.

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